My Sister , My Friend ( The End )

For the past almost three months,

Silence and pain is what has become the friend I never wanted , yet it seems to have made its home with me. Dreams of the future with my sister are now  gone , and wonderment of words not said or wanting to say it or to hug her close , to never let her go.

 I will love her forever, might seem like empty words now , but I feel that way because  I had hoped for her to be in my live forever.  There is no greater gift in life than a Sister or a Brother

Losing my sister was like no other pain I’ve ever felt. She meant a lot to me.  "No one can ever replace Abby. Her death brought me terrible anguish, for my heart is filled with pain and loss. I continue to yearn for the sight, smell, voice and feeling of Abby ever since she passed. It is almost impossible to fathom that she is no longer here. However, I believe that beyond our death we will find something similar but far greater than we can imagine.

  

God's love welcomes us like a warm blanket, wrapping us up to support, protect and comfort us in eternal joy. Death is only a passage into a larger loving family. Dear Abby as you transition into your new loving family that I know nothing about, I will always savor those moments we spent together though few and far between in recent times.  

I will miss your laugh, the funny times, the times we argued even. One thing I know for a fact is that you are free from all your pains and I will forever be very proud of you. God wanted you now, God set you free.

You will be in our hearts forever.

Love always !

My Sister , My Friend ( 4 )

 As I continue to deal with my grieve , I look at things in serveral differnt ways. Like the fact that sometimes

People forget the importance of siblings in our lives. Here are some characteristics of the sibling bond that caught my attention:

• It's the longest relationship we'll have in our lives. We are typically only a few years apart in age. We usually know them longer than our parents, spouses and children.

• We witness more life events and life changes with our siblings than anyone else.

• We share a sense of family, belonging and culture.

• They teach us how to function in society and communicate with others.

• The time spent together in our early years is greater than with our parents.

 sibling loss reminds us of the uniqueness of the sibling bond.

Typically, siblings will carry this loss through a large portion of life. We will want a way to memorialize our sibling. No one ever gets over a death, it becomes a part of us and we take it with us throughout life. 

 I know deep within my shattered heart that I was blessed in life with not only a wonderful loving sister but also someone I called my best friend.   

The days are dark and gray now , I do not see any joy or thoughts of what would have been in our life in the form of dreams we both had together . It’s hard to come to the realization now that this will never be.  We will not be two old ladies rocking on a porch someday chatting about yesterdays , or sharing a hug as we did most times ,or a call just to say hello .  I miss her more than my soul thought it could know .

Todays's update !

" In sub-Saharan Africa a child is orphaned every 14 seconds.  As a direct result of the HIV/AIDS pandemic, there are over 15,000,000 orphans living there.

In the small Southern African kingdom of Swaziland, AIDS infects more than one in four people, making it the country with the highest HIV/AIDS prevalence rate in the world.  The result is an exploding number of households headed by children, some as young as eight or nine years old. "

saw this information today online snd passing it on to my viewers !

My Sister ! My Friend ( 3 )

Talking to people about my wonderful sister is actually helping me cope.

I am also learning now that While your sibling may have been a pivotal person in your life, he or she may have been insignificant to others who now are quite important parts of your life. 

  For this reason, your friends may not understand your grief or help you with it in the way they could if someone they knew well had died. They may not understand what the loss means to you or why it affects you like it does, since they did not know you when your sibling was more a part of your life.

I have known Abby as a child and she is a part of my past. I remember unique and intimate experiences that we had.  Like seeing ourselves in embarrassing situations, participating in family jokes against each other, being hurt by childhood insensitivity, and so forth.

Though our perceptions may have been quite different at the time of her death, because of the people we have become , the fact remains that we have known ourselves for a long time and the unique co-history we share is a very important bond between us.

When death takes your sister, it also takes away one of your connections to the past, someone who knew you in a very special way, totally unlike those who know you now as an adult.

Although I did not have frequent contact with her due to distance, I cherished the little that we could afford, at least I knew that she was always there when I called, text or skype .

Thinking about Abby and praying for others who are sad today.

Today's lesson !

As I continue to deal with my lose and the process of grieving . I learn one thing every day.
Intouch ministries is helping me a great deal. I am sharing with the hopes that another soul can feel some relief.

God Is Always In Control
Isaiah 45:5-7
I admit that I often don’t understand why bad things happen. Even so, I believe that God has a purpose for everythingHe does or permits. My faith is rooted in the biblical principle that says the Lord is sovereign (Ps. 22:28). He is in absolute control of this universe, the natural and political climate of this earth, and my life and yours.


When we are in the midst of a trial, it is hard to resist crying out, “God, Why is this happening?” Sometimes we get the answer and sometimes we don’t. What we can be sure of is that nothing happens by accident or coincidence. 

He has a purpose for even our most painful experiences. Moreover, we have His promise to “cause all things to work together for good to those who love God” (Rom. 8:28).
Seeing in advance how the Lord will work evil or hurt for our benefit is very difficult, if not impossible. My limited human perspective doesn’t allow me to grasp His greater plan. 

However, I can confirm the truth of this biblical promise because the Father’s good handiwork appears all through my pain, hardship, and loss. I have experienced Him turn mourning into gladness and have seen Him reap bountiful blessings and benefits from my darkest hours.


As believers, we must accept that God won’t always make sense to us. Isaiah teaches that His ways and thoughts are higher than our own (Isa. 55:9). He sees the beautifully completed big picture. We can rely on the fact that God is in control, no matter how wildly off-kilter our world seems to spin. 

On My mind today as I continue to Reflect !

 Hebrews 12:3-11

Sometimes our life can seem like a long, dark tunnel. Perhaps we are unable to discover a solution for a problem, or we cannot find relief from pain. Regardless of the direction we turn, we can’t find hope for anything better than our present circumstances.

Thankfully, we serve a God who feels our pain and knows our limitations firsthand. Jesus Christ walked through the valley of the shadow of death and cried out, “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?” (Mark 15:34). 

This means that when our faith is stretched to the breaking point, our strength is exhausted, and our dreams are shattered like glass, Jesus understands. And He asks us to hold on, even when everything in us screams to give up.

Giving up means abandoning God’s help for our own strength. We try to manipulate a situation or simply avoid pain. In essence, we are choosing to believe that Satan in his worldly power is stronger than Christ within us—which is the exact opposite of what the Bible says is true (1 John 4:4). Of course, the devil is not more powerful, but we let him win a battle if we give up on the assurance that God will see us through difficulty. When we have that attitude, we miss the Father’s blessing and limit our usefulness in His kingdom.

Even when we cannot detect His presence, God is working every moment on our problem. But we must trust His perfect timing for revealing the answer. Your Father knows your hurt, and He will bring you through that dark tunnel. Do not give up before receiving His blessing. "

This meditation piece has truelly helped me not to throw in the towel and wallow in woe is me effect.

Hope this can help someone else going through pain and saddness now or in the near future.

My Sister , My Friend ( 2 )

As the days go by and I continue to think of my sister , certain thoughts have found their way into my mind . Like the fact that there are special characteristics unique to the sibling bond. It is a relationship that can be quite profound, either positively or negatively.

Brothers and sisters influence each other’s identity in fundamental ways

Along with this, just living together in the intimacy of family life puts us in positions with our siblings where normal feelings of tension and aggression are bound to erupt. Yet siblings are also often sources of affection and security.

Sibling relationships may be close and intimate, distant and formal, or anything in between. What is important to remember is that sibling relationships are often marked by attachment as well as antagonism, caring as well as competition, and loyalty as well as lingering resentment. Certainly one of the primary factors influencing my grief over the death of my sister is the type of relationship I had with her. In this case I loved our relationship irrespective of the ups and downs.

You are all over my head today dear Abby , missing you lots !